Genesis 30:1-2: Just one further thought…

“When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I’ll die!” Jacob became angry with her and said, “Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?” NIV

Recently, on an aeroplane flight, I watched a heart-warming film. In some ways it was sad, but it also had a slightly humorous undertone. One of the female characters, played by Joanna Lumley, quipped that her previous marriage had broken up ‘for religious reasons. ‘He thought he was God,’ she said, ‘but I disagreed!!’

Well here is just one further thought on these verses that came to me this morning as I read them again. It’s this: Christian marriages can flounder because they can’t take the weight of expectation one partner puts on the other. Sometimes, in a sense, we can want each other to be a kind of ‘god’. If your husband or wife is your ‘idol’, and you are looking to them to meet your deepest needs, they will sooner or later fall off the pedestal. They can’t take the place of Jesus. Only He is the all sufficient One in Whom you find the answer to all your needs.

Before you’re ready to marry, you need to be clear about this: Jesus is Lord of your life. He is the number 1. You recognise He’s the only One you really need. Then you’re not putting an unnecessary burden on your partner to be, or do, what is impossible for them. You are free to love them as they are, with their flaws and frailty